Uncolored Reality

Fiction reading can be healthy for your relationship too! It can help you not only relate to the characters going through toxic married habits! But it can also be your voice of reason just to gain valuable insight on things you and your spouse might be facing. You can stop feeling so alone in what you are going through!

Now I know what you are thinking! Books are pretty much playing pretend…how can you base your real-life marital issues on an unreal amount of dramatized scenarios written down? Wellllll BOY! Do I have an answer for you!

First off, reading is circumstantial. Based off certain experiences in life bring our pull to a book closer when we’re looking for our next read. We look for something we can understand and relate to. That is what draws us into feeling everything from reading someone else pretend life or some of someone’s real-life experiences thrown into fiction writing.

I mean is it any different than you calling to blab to your single friend to ask for relationship advice? I mean do they really know enough to relate and give you valuable insight into your marriage? But you trust them and their opinion still so why can’t we trust a book’s opinion? I mean these stories show real-life issues and how to communicate effectively and not effectively. Books can show you how to grow as an individual and how to grow with someone else. Books can teach you healthy ways to move on from things and they can teach you how to get revenge positively! I mean revenge is a dish best served cold! Taking the high road and focusing on yourself can make the other person pretty bitter sometimes and you didn’t even have to do anything spiteful! Books can teach us to choose the other road.

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I’m saying all of this to say books have lessons in them. Every one of them. Not just the self-help guides of someone else opinions you’re taking as a bond. Fiction is where you learn about being human and making mistakes and not being afraid of that. Not being scared to work on your relationship instead of throwing it away. Honestly leaving your person, your partner, destroying your vows to do what? Like is hard AF! And you will get to see firsthand that the dating scene is even tougher. Don’t go out on a whim thinking the fishes are swimming all around and you won’t go out starving because you will. I mean look at Tia, she had to learn that the hard AF way leaving Cory for green grass. Now look her back over there making amends.

Don’t get caught up in social media’s fake perception of life and false temptations that will disappear along with your spouse. Distraction is the worst thing for a marriage. It is important to handle things head-on and communicate before it’s too late. Don’t ignore issues and let your ego be the downfall of losing someone you have a future with!

We wonder why it’s so easy for people to give up on their marriage as we see so many people continuously getting divorced like Chance the Rapper and Kirsten Corley, Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth, Hugh Jackman and Deborah-lee Furness, Jessica Alba and Cash Warren.

After so many years put into something so sacred people just give up and call it quits so easy. I prefer to read love stories that always have tough but happy endings where there are trials and tribulations, fights, depression, and hate towards one another leading to divorce but in the end, love wins. With work and growth, love can always win. I want to read about that type of Jephte Pierre and Shawniece Jackson, Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner, Ciara and Russel Wilson, Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell loovvvee!

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Now that I’ve explained myself and why I prefer book therapy instead of marriage counseling when a problem arises in my marriage I want to talk about some book recommendations that will get you through a tough spell. Now these books aren’t a walk in a park! You will learn how to stand the test of time with these couples, you will detest the men, sympathize with their separate realities, and figure out with them how to make the impossible possible again!

Before I Let Go by Kennedy Ryan:

Follows Yasmen and Josiah as they are trying to co-parent and manage their restaurant while no longer being together. As they attempt to date other people you get to see them still not be able to fully let go of each other. This will show you that mental health and communication are the biggest help in a relationship!

Holding by Alexandria House:

Follows Krystle and Terrence as they navigate no longer being married but sharing custody of their “kid” and still being friends. This is a friend/enemy to lovers and you get to see them grow up and grow apart and back together as many times as needed until they get it right. I love that Mental Health issues are dived into
In this story as well.

This Used to Be Us by Renee Carlino: 

Follows Danielle and Alex as they are going through a divorce after being together for 22 years. You get to see the good, bad, and ugly of a marriage that is going anywhere but to a cordial place while trying to keep their children from seeing the worst of the divorce. They decide to share an apartment and they switch out living there to not uproot their kid’s life in their already familiar family home.

All of these stories will teach you some important lessons about marriage how it isn’t always pretty and how we could avoid the worst parts of marriage if we just put in the work it takes and communicate, take mental health seriously, do the work, and love each other unconditionally.

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Until Next Time Readers. XOXO